Should I join Facebook?
Monday, June 4th, 2007This is probably a question for a poll, but hey, i’m going to blog about it instead.
What is this Facebook Phenomenon? I just don’t see the attraction of having a virtual network of friends whom i interact with solely through a third party website! And yet I received a stiff defence of its merits from my sister on the telephone today and I’ve now received countless invitations to join the network from ex-workmates, new workmates and friends from University.
Am I simply denying myself the pleasure of being hermetically attached to my computer for more hours of every day or am I - like Nero and his friends (mercenaries?) in the Matrix- among the socially excluded of the cyber world? Am I officially unemployed because, unofficially, i’m not yet registered to work on Facebook? Should I be claiming benefits for my ignorance of the social network available “freely” to all with a broadband connection? Maybe I should apply my social inclusion economic development planning skills to the cyber world and start teaching insecure individuals how to get recognised on the web?!
Personally, the risk of meeting ex-girlfriends, arch-enemies from school or even someone i know, puts me off completely! How low can our levels of communication sink? I don’t need a picture, profile and a display of my personal “web” of friends to maintain either my self-esteem or my friendships and i struggle to understand why someone might want to broadcast themselves to the world via a computer when the real world is so much more effective in doing so.
We might laugh at the cultural tendancies we observe here in Chile- the chileans and the Europeans working in Chile- but we do value them highly. Close family ties and the eternal stories of the intrusive Chilean “mother-in-law” may frustrate us foreigners sometimes, but we really respect it and recognise its benefits to society. Our ongoing debate about greeting a stranger with one kiss or two and on which cheeks might sound somewhat “simple” but the debate alone highlights the relative dependency that the english speaking world has upon the non-contact sport of networking via cyberspace, relative to our European counterparts. And the difference is not just explained by different levels of connectedness such as the number and cost of broadband.
Do we face a collective social confidence crisis that leads us to hide behind our computer screens to avoid real interaction or to hide our flaws and our sensitivities? Like e-mail, we can say so much more yet it can be so much more easily misinterpreted! In the words of Yusuf Islam, “please God, don’t let me be misunderstood” is both a guide to creating your Facebook profile and any responses to it!
Perhaps it is just a convenient way to avoid catching a dreadfully overcrowded/late/unreliable/slow train or bus to actually go and see that person? I don’t know… but it seems that Ewan McGregor in Trainspotting was not only right but profound in his analysis of the risks of substituting real relationships for other forms including cyberships- “Choose Life”! (I don’t mean 2ndLife! That could be another whole blog couldn’t it?!)
You won’t find me on Facebook yet but its only a matter of time before i drag my lazy, antisocial cyberbum into the highly connected, over-caffinated real-world-divorced community.